Mark Harmon said he had to “kiss a lot of frogs” before finding her

You know how most Hollywood marriages crash and burn in like, two years? Mark Harmon and Pam Dawber are the exception to the rule. They got married back in '87, and nearly 40 years later, they’re actually still solid.

We all know Mark as Gibbs from NCIS—the guy who never breaks character. And Pam is the legend from Mork & Mindy. But the coolest thing they ever built wasn't a TV show; it was a life that they kept totally hidden from the cameras.

How They Met

They didn't meet at some fancy premiere. A friend introduced them in 1986. They were both in their 30s, famous, and over the whole "dating game" thing. Mark joked he had to "kiss a lot of frogs" to find her, but when he knew, he knew.

They got hitched a year later. No helicopters, no People magazine exclusive. Just them and their friends. Pam had seen how messy Hollywood weddings get, and she wasn't having it.

The Life They Built

When their boys, Sean and Ty, showed up, Pam did something you don't see much anymore: she quit the grind. She basically said, "I'm not doing 14-hour days on set while a stranger raises my kids." She drove the carpool. She was there.

Mark kept the bills paid with NCIS, but they had a rule: work stays at work. It paid off. Their son Sean even ended up playing young Gibbs on the show years later—which is honestly the perfect full-circle moment.

Grandparents Era
Fast forward to now, and they are grandparents. Their son Sean just had a baby boy, and the family keeps growing. It confirms what fans have always suspected: Mark and Pam are exactly who they said they were.

Next time you see a pic of Mark, look at his hand. He usually wears an eagle-head ring. He’s said he wears it when he's not filming just because he's proud to be married. In an industry where everyone sells their relationships for clicks, that’s pretty cool.